Your Fertility Mindset

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In order to begin, the following issues need to be addressed:

Mindset 1: A Vision of Parenthood

Select a number on each side, one for where you feel you score currently, and where you want to be.

Currently, I am I want to be
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You are more focused on the pain of being denied than on any positive dream for the future. You are motivated by pain.
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You have some sense of possibility but you clicked on this link because you can't take the pain any more. You know you need help.
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Your dream is battered and bruised but still alive. It's hard sometimes to keep the faith but you do your best.
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You have a dream of parenthood, a vision of holding your baby in your arms. You are on a journey toward that dream. You never lose hope.
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Mindset 2: The Best Expert You can find to help

Select a number on each side, one for where you feel you score currently, and where you want to be.

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You pick your doctor by who is in the insurance book and the location of the office. Good enough for you.
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Your FB friends rave about a doctor and you figure if it's good enough for them it's good enough for you.
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Your sister's best friend's cousin got pregnant, and you keep hearing about this place. You googled and Wow, you are in the door.
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You walk into consults knowing why you are here. You checked out CDC and SART data. You choose your doctors for what they do best.
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Mindset 3: Open to Try Different treatments

Select a number on each side, one for where you feel you score currently, and where you want to be.

Currently, I am I want to be
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You want IVF. Or you want organic non invasive acupuncture and Chinese herbs. You have it all figured out. Control is everything.
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Your sister's best friend did IVF with their doc so you want it too. But if there's a better option, you figure it can't hurt to listen.
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Your heart got broken a bunch of times already with this process. You want to believe and you are willing to try again. You won't give up.
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You know why you pick specialists and you are open to the options they identify. You are ready to try everything and keep an open mind.
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Mindset 4: You Listen and Seek to Understand

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Currently, I am I want to be
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You don't listen and you have no clue about your part of the treatment plan. You get super upset when the process goes wrong.
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You hate needles and you are all thumbs. You make your husband pay attention and between the two of you it kind of gets done.
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You get so overwhelmed in the classes and from all the info! You might get a little neurotic about it. But you get there...with help.
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You take notes and you understand your instructions. You ask questions if you don't understand, and you appreciate the coaching!
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Mindset 5: You Get Support from Friends and Family

Select a number on each side, one for where you feel you score currently, and where you want to be.

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You are overwhelmed by your life as it is, and a baby would totally destroy your life. You are isolated and rigid.
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You are kind of a hermit, but people like you when they get to know you. You are a little overextended, but hard working and nice.
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You were raised by wolves and have little family. But you have learned how to reach out for help over the years, and you have good support.
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You have a loving network of support so no matter what happens you have connections. You are loved by family and lots of friends.
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Mindset 6: You Go with the Flow

Select a number on each side, one for where you feel you score currently, and where you want to be.

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You hate everybody and everything when things go wrong. You are demanding and mean, and you try to argue your way out of difficulties.
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You almost give up from the pain sometimes, but you know progress isn't easy sometimes too. You grit your teeth and keep going.
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You get emotional when another bump appears in the road, but you regroup and embrace the new pathway you have to take now.
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You have a first class temperament and great disposition. Even when things get very hard, you keep your positive focus.
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Mindset 7: You Stay on Vision

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You are bitter because your plans were thwarted. Even if you achieve a miracle you can't appreciate it because of how hard it is.
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You are bitter about the pain of this process and it sometimes boils over. However, when a miracle happens your entire mindset changes.
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You sometimes lose sight of the big picture because of the length of the journey. But with the help of your med team you get back on track.
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No matter what, you stay focused on the vision that brought you this far. You believe that only good can emerge from this no matter what.
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Mindset 8: A Partner with Your Medical Team

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You see your doctor and the medical staff and the whole profession as a big part of the problem.
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You follow the rules, and you don't really think about roles. You come for a service and you get it.
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You want to be a good patient and not make waves. You see your role as patient, distinct from medical. But you're grateful!
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You see your role as co-creator of a great adventure with the incredible staff you've selected. You enjoy working with your doc!
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